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Amazon.com: emotional abuse in Amazon.com Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men  "He doesn't mean to hurt me-he just loses control.""He can be sweet and gentle." "He's scared me a few times, but he never hurts the children-he's a great father." "He's had a really hard life..." Women in abusive relationships tell themselves these things every day. Now they can see inside the minds of angry and controlling men-and change their own lives. In this groundbreaking book, a counselor shows how to improve, survive, or leave an abusive relationship, with: € The early warning signs € Nine abusive personality types € How to tell if an abuser can change, is changing, or ever will € The role of drugs and alcohol € What can be fixed, and what can't € How to leave a relationship safely Author: Lundy Bancroft Paperback: 432 pages Company: Berkley Trade (2003-09-02) (2003-09-02) ISBN: 0425191656 List Price: $16.00 Amazon Price: $8.97 Used Price: $9.14 Emotional Vampires: Dealing With People Who Drain You Dry  "Bernstein provides a field guide to the various types of Emotional Vampires and advises readers how to protect themselves from being victims of these predatory personalities."Boston Globe From bestselling author Albert J. Bernstein The author of Dinosaur Brains offers protection from people who seek to destroy the emotional and psychological well-being of others. Like the fabled demons, these vampires:
Emotional Vampires tells readers how to spot a "vampire" in their lives, which defense strategies to employ to prevent one from striking, and what to do if and when they find themselves under attack. Author: Albert J. Bernstein Paperback: 256 pages Company: McGraw-Hill (2002-03-22) ISBN: 0071381678 List Price: $16.95 Amazon Price: $9.04 Used Price: $8.97 The Verbally Abusive Relationship: How to Recognize it and How to Respond  Are you now, or have you ever been, in relationships with family, friends, or mates who have been verbally abusive? Is your happiness with someone you love continually threatened by interactions that continually undermine your self-esteem? Do you feel trapped in a relationship that keeps decaying in a downward spiral of overt or passive-aggressive abuse? If so, this book could be your life raft, either carrying you toward repair of the existing relationship or the effects of past relationships or offering liberation from your current confusion. Its practical approach can help clear your head and possibly change your life. The only criticism that I and other readers have is that the author assumes verbal abuse is almost always directed by males toward females, which, in my experience and that of others I know, is not necessarily the case. Highly Recommended. Emotional Blackmail: When the People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation, and Guilt to Manipulate You  "If you really loved me..." "After all I've done for you..." "How can you be so selfish..." Do any of the above sound familiar? They're all examples of emotional blackmail, a powerful form of manipulation in which people close to us threaten to punish us for not doing what they want. Emotional blackmailers know how much we value our relationships with them. They know our vulnerabilities and our deepest secrets. They are our mothers, our partners, our bosses and coworkers, our friends and our lovers. And no matter how much they care about us, they use this intimate knowledge to give themselves the payoff they want: our compliance. Susan Forward knows what pushes our hot buttons. Just as John Gray illuminates the communications gap between the sexes in Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, and Harriet Lerner describes an intricate dynamic in The Dance of Anger, so Susan Forward presents the anatomy of a relationship damaged by manipulation, and gives readers an arsenal of tools to fight back. In her clear, no-nonsense style, Forward provides powerful, practical strategies for blackmail targets, including checklists, practice scenarios and concrete communications techniques that will strengthen relationships and break the blackmail cycle for good. A Wolf at the Table: A Memoir of My Father  Amazon Significant Seven, April 2008: When I started reading A Wolf at the Table, I thought I knew what to expect. Augusten Burroughs captures intense experience with an inexplicably cool remove, imparting a stillness and purity to emotions that would likely run amok in anyone else's hands. I love this quality of his writing, and it's present in full force in this memoir of a childhood spent in thrall to a predatory and deeply unpredictable father. What I wasn't prepared for was the suspense--the dread-filled, nearly sonorous waiting for the worst to happen. An artful sort of bait-and-switch happens in the telling: Burroughs brings you to the brink of a terrible catharsis more than once, but the break in tension never comes. It is profoundly sad, remarkably tender, and fueled by a sense of love and reverence that only a child knows. --Anne BartholomewAuthor: Augusten Burroughs Hardcover: 256 pages Company: St. Martin's Press (2008-04-29) (2008-04-29) ISBN: 0312342020 List Price: $24.95 Amazon Price: $10.09 Used Price: $12.00 The Language of Letting Go (Hazelden Meditation Series)  Melody Beattie integrates her own life experiences and fundamental recovery reflections in this unique daily meditation book written especially for those of us who struggle with the issue of codependency. Problems are made to be solved, Melody reminds us, and the best thing we can do is take responsibility for our own pain and self-care. In this daily inspirational book, Melody provides us with a thought to guide us through the day and she encourages us to remember that each day is an opportunity for growth and renewal. Author: Melody Beattie Paperback: 390 pages Company: Hazelden (1990-07-01) ISBN: 0894866370 List Price: $16.95 Amazon Price: $9.28 Used Price: $3.60 Shiloh  by Phyllis R. Naylor. Paperback. Elementary Level Chapter BooksAuthor: Phyllis Reynolds Naylor Paperback: 144 pages Made with the Best Quality Material with your child in mind., Top Quality Children's Item. Company: Aladdin (2000-09-01) ISBN: 0689835825 List Price: $6.99 Amazon Price: $1.88 Used Price: $0.33 Speak  Since the beginning of the school year, high school freshman Melinda has found that it's been getting harder and harder for her to speak out loud: "My throat is always sore, my lips raw.... Every time I try to talk to my parents or a teacher, I sputter or freeze.... It's like I have some kind of spastic laryngitis." What could have caused Melinda to suddenly fall mute? Could it be due to the fact that no one at school is speaking to her because she called the cops and got everyone busted at the seniors' big end-of-summer party? Or maybe it's because her parents' only form of communication is Post-It notes written on their way out the door to their nine-to-whenever jobs. While Melinda is bothered by these things, deep down she knows the real reason why she's been struck mute... Laurie Halse Anderson's first novel is a stunning and sympathetic tribute to the teenage outcast. The triumphant ending, in which Melinda finds her voice, is cause for cheering (while many readers might also shed a tear or two). After reading Speak, it will be hard for any teen to look at the class scapegoat again without a measure of compassion and understanding for that person--who may be screaming beneath the silence. (Ages 13 and older) --Jennifer Hubert The Chocolate War (Readers Circle)  Does Jerry Renault dare to disturb the universe? You wouldn't think that his refusal to sell chocolates during his school's fundraiser would create such a stir, but it does; it's as if the whole school comes apart at the seams. To some, Jerry is a hero, but to others, he becomes a scapegoat--a target for their pent-up hatred. And Jerry? He's just trying to stand up for what he believes, but perhaps there is no way for him to escape becoming a pawn in this game of control; students are pitted against other students, fighting for honor--or are they fighting for their lives? In 1974, author Robert Cormier dared to disturb our universe when this book was first published. And now, with a new introduction by the celebrated author, The Chocolate War stands ready to shock a new group of teen readers.Author: Robert Cormier Paperback: 272 pages Company: Knopf Books for Young Readers (2004-09-14) (2004-09-14) ISBN: 0375829873 List Price: $8.95 Amazon Price: $4.84 Used Price: $4.99 Identical  Do twins begin in the womb? Kaeleigh and Raeanne are identical down to the dimple. As daughters of a district-court judge father and a politician mother, they are an all-American family -- on the surface. Behind the facade each sister has her own dark secret, and that's where their differences begin. For Kaeleigh, she's the misplaced focus of Daddy's love, intended for a mother whose presence on the campaign trail means absence at home. All that Raeanne sees is Daddy playing a game of favorites -- and she is losing. If she has to lose, she will do it on her own terms, so she chooses drugs, alcohol, and sex. Secrets like the ones the twins are harboring are not meant to be kept -- from each other or anyone else. Pretty soon it's obvious that neither sister can handle it alone, and one sister must step up to save the other, but the question is -- who? |
Amazon.com: "verbal abuse" in Amazon.com Verbal Abuse Survivors Speak Out; On relationship and recovery  From the author of The Verbally Abusive Relationship If your partner: seems irritated or angry at you several times a week; denies being angry when he clearly is; does not work with you to resolve important issues; rarely or never seems to share thoughts or plans with you; or tells you that he has no idea what you're talking about when you try to discuss important problems...you need this book. Sorry!  Author: Trudy Ludwig Hardcover: 32 pages Company: Tricycle Press (2006-07-15) ISBN: 1582461732 List Price: $15.95 Amazon Price: $9.61 Used Price: $9.54 Just Kidding  D.J.'s friend Vince has a habit of teasing D.J. and then saying, "Just kidding!" as if it will make everything okay. It doesn't, but D.J. is afraid that if he protests, his friends will think he can't take a joke. With the help of his father, brother, and an understanding teacher, D.J. progresses from feeling helpless to taking positive action, undermining the power of two seemingly harmless words. Trudy Ludwig takes another look at relational aggression, the use of relationships to manipulate and hurt others, this time from the boy's point of view.Author: Trudy Ludwig Hardcover: 32 pages Company: Tricycle Press (2006-03) ISBN: 1582461635 List Price: $15.95 Amazon Price: $9.57 Used Price: $9.58 You Can't Say That to Me: Stopping the Pain of Verbal Abuse -- An 8-Step Program  You can't say that to me! "Can't you do anything right?" "I can't believe you would feed that junk to your child!" "What is this? And don't tell me it's a casserole, I already know that." "If you really cared about me, you wouldn't behave this way." Sound familiar? Each of us occasionally feels the sting of very unpleasant language from those who are closest to us--spouses, employers, friends, relatives. But frequent and repeated use of unanswerable questions, scalding accusations, sarcasm, insinuations, and even icy silence is more than simply unpleasant; it is abusive, destructive, and frequently leads to escalating arguments and physical violence. Suzette Haden Elgin, creator of the "Gentle Art of Verbal Self-Defense," has developed a unique and revolutionary way to break the cycle of verbal violence and eliminate it from your life--without ruining your marriage, risking your job, or alienating friends or loved ones. Dr. Elgin shows you how to neutralize verbal attacks and discourage future abuse with:* An 8-step program that helps you recognize the patterns of verbal abuse * Specific language techniques that enable you to avoid escalating arguments and break the cycle of abuse using skills you already possess * Questionnaires and diaries that help you analyze abusive situations, evaluate your responses to them, and track your progress In this book Dr. Elgin proves that verbal abuse is not caused by human nature, but by language. She helps you discover that you are an expert in your own language, already highly qualified to solve this problem for yourself, quickly and forever. Author: Suzette Haden Elgin Paperback: 224 pages Company: Wiley (1995-02-16) ISBN: 0471003999 List Price: $18.95 Amazon Price: $7.99 Used Price: $3.99 The Verbally Abusive Relationship: How to Recognize it and How to Respond Are you now, or have you ever been, in relationships with family, friends, or mates who have been verbally abusive? Is your happiness with someone you love continually threatened by interactions that continually undermine your self-esteem? Do you feel trapped in a relationship that keeps decaying in a downward spiral of overt or passive-aggressive abuse? If so, this book could be your life raft, either carrying you toward repair of the existing relationship or the effects of past relationships or offering liberation from your current confusion. Its practical approach can help clear your head and possibly change your life. The only criticism that I and other readers have is that the author assumes verbal abuse is almost always directed by males toward females, which, in my experience and that of others I know, is not necessarily the case. Highly Recommended. Hot Issues, Cool Choices: Facing Bullies, Peer Pressure, Popularity, and Put-downs  Did you know that there are kids out there who don t even want to get out of bed in the morning because they know what going to school means for them?·being teased and taunted ... ·being excluded and rejected ... ·being afraid that you re going to be assaulted and possibly hurt... ·Sometimes it can even mean that you just can t hang in there any longer, so you give up and take your own life. If you are one of the cool kids at school, this book is for you. But if you re not one of the cool kids, this book is especially for you. Emerson Elementary isn t a real school, but it could be your elementary school. And the students at Emerson aren t real kids, but the problems they face are real, and so are the choices they make. The Golden Rule is an old rule, but it's still a good rule to live by, and after reading this book, you may just possibly become a kinder, more compassionate human being, someone who treats others the way you want them to treat you. So come along and join the students at Emerson Elementary and help them make some cool choices! Author: Sandra McLeod Humphrey Paperback: 133 pages Company: Prometheus Books (2007-11-20) ISBN: 1591025699 List Price: $13.95 Amazon Price: $7.95 Used Price: $9.28 Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men "He doesn't mean to hurt me-he just loses control.""He can be sweet and gentle." "He's scared me a few times, but he never hurts the children-he's a great father." "He's had a really hard life..." Women in abusive relationships tell themselves these things every day. Now they can see inside the minds of angry and controlling men-and change their own lives. In this groundbreaking book, a counselor shows how to improve, survive, or leave an abusive relationship, with: € The early warning signs € Nine abusive personality types € How to tell if an abuser can change, is changing, or ever will € The role of drugs and alcohol € What can be fixed, and what can't € How to leave a relationship safely Author: Lundy Bancroft Paperback: 432 pages Company: Berkley Trade (2003-09-02) (2003-09-02) ISBN: 0425191656 List Price: $16.00 Amazon Price: $8.97 Used Price: $9.14 The Secret of Overcoming Verbal Abuse: Getting Off the Emotional Roller Coaster and Regaining Control of Your Life  Author: Albert Ellis, Marcia Grad Powers Paperback: 230 pages Company: Wilshire Book Co (2000-10-01) ISBN: 0879804459 List Price: $15.00 Amazon Price: $7.19 Used Price: $5.99 Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited  When the personality is rigid to the point of being unable to change in reaction to changing circumstances - we say that it is disordered. Such a person takes behavioral, emotional, and cognitive cues exclusively from others. His inner world is, so to speak, vacated. His True Self is dilapidated and dysfunctional. Instead he has a tyrannical and delusional False Self. Such a person is incapable of loving and of living. He cannot love others because he cannot love himself. He loves his reflection, his surrogate self. And he is incapable of living because life is a struggle towards, a striving, a drive at something. In other words: life is change. He who cannot change cannot live. The narcissist is an actor in a monodrama, yet forced to remain behind the scenes. The scenes take center stage, instead. The Narcissist does not cater at all to his own needs. Contrary to his reputation, the Narcissist does not "love" himself in any true sense of the word. He feeds off other people, who hurl back at him an image that he projects to them. This is their sole function in his world: to reflect, to admire, to applaud, to detest - in a word, to assure him that he exists. Otherwise, the narcissist feels, they have no right to tax his time, energy, or emotions. The main body of research about Narcissism is surveyed in the book. Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Re-Visited offers a detailed, first hand account of what it is like to have a Narcissistic Personality Disorder. It contains new insights and an organized methodological framework. The first part of the book comprises more than 100 Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs) regarding relationships with abusive narcissists and the Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Controlling People: How to Recognize, Understand, and Deal with People Who Try to Control You  Author: Patricia Evans Paperback: 352 pages Company: Adams Media (2003-02-01) ISBN: 158062569X List Price: $14.95 Amazon Price: $9.00 Used Price: $6.99 |